tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8463471462522424732.post684720385363048908..comments2024-03-05T20:07:08.232+00:00Comments on The Kitchen Bitch Ponders: The Art of ChangeErylhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06008344023000459577noreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8463471462522424732.post-79982598984876688462011-07-24T10:58:51.630+01:002011-07-24T10:58:51.630+01:00Denise ~ I'm pretty sure I didn't think of...Denise ~ I'm pretty sure I didn't think of it until university made me. <br /><br />Sarah ~ you're welcome.<br /><br />Carole ~ I can't see you as a pouter at all. <br /><br />Red ~ he is, and it's great. Mine has been slightly messier than I'd have liked this week...<br /><br />Alesa ~ I'm incredibly fortunate with my readers, and my family, you're right. <br /><br />Beet-burgers might have to be my next culinary experiment! <br /><br />Alpha woman ~ you are one of six?! That's a lot of kids to take care of. <br /><br />Jimmy ~ thank you. Nice to see you, too. I need to put you on my side-bar, too, if I don't do something the second it comes to my attention it doesn't get done.Erylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06008344023000459577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8463471462522424732.post-46681345725926306082011-07-23T13:48:37.383+01:002011-07-23T13:48:37.383+01:00"We have to deal with it in life, and having ..."We have to deal with it in life, and having read about how others do so helps us recalibrate when that happens."<br /><br />Extremely wise words.<br /><br />Why are you of all people missing from my seriously dated read list I wonder?Jimmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06876631508280097974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8463471462522424732.post-67977116405922163112011-07-22T12:12:21.606+01:002011-07-22T12:12:21.606+01:00I can relate to how you feel. The first time my da...I can relate to how you feel. The first time my daughter left home I felt so lonely. I remember when I left home. I think my parents threw a party! The first of six to fly out of the nest. Things are so different now with children staying at home longer.alphawomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12788721975727895601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8463471462522424732.post-6125215930206408932011-07-21T09:14:01.024+01:002011-07-21T09:14:01.024+01:00It sounds like the plot is developing, and that Bo...It sounds like the plot is developing, and that Bob has gotten his own spinoff. : j<br />And that you've got a handle of the new developments... <br />Sometimes sudden plot shifts keep the reader interested, sometimes I just feel like complaining to the author in a Brooklyn accent: "Hey! I wuz enjoyin' dat!" But then sometimes the author takes you somewhere else that's just as good if not better. : p<br /><br />You have some lovely lovely (because once is not enough!) readers! <br />And from the way you tell it, a brilliant and loving family (not mention a freshly painted table)! : j<br /><br />Oh, the empty plate... Not much to go on- did you have beet burgers?Avohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15808959359850145003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8463471462522424732.post-76430217620540131152011-07-20T20:20:27.305+01:002011-07-20T20:20:27.305+01:00He's just living his messy, exciting life. You...He's just living his messy, exciting life. You have a pretty good one, too.red-handedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16484549762594608774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8463471462522424732.post-69478613645299265792011-07-20T17:17:05.511+01:002011-07-20T17:17:05.511+01:00There is something about the mother-son bond that ...There is something about the mother-son bond that is hard to define but sometimes it just pounds the sass right out of us.<br /><br />Talking it over helps us process it so much better than a dark corner in which to pout with no one in sight. Still pouting is occasionally called for.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03828426520214270655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8463471462522424732.post-27414523394718245302011-07-20T13:28:27.639+01:002011-07-20T13:28:27.639+01:00Oh, I love it when people agree with everything I ...Oh, I love it when people agree with everything I say...! Thanks for referring my blog to people, that's v kind.Sarah Duncanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12530089356370140344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8463471462522424732.post-75056872960380354372011-07-20T12:35:55.051+01:002011-07-20T12:35:55.051+01:00Of course!
You want to see how the character deal...Of course!<br /><br />You want to see how the character deals and survives...<br /><br />It's simple, but I never thought of that before..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8463471462522424732.post-46226348713963904162011-07-20T10:44:38.428+01:002011-07-20T10:44:38.428+01:00Weaver ~ I can't imagine Bob clinging! We'...Weaver ~ I can't imagine Bob clinging! We're off to see him tomorrow, which will be great.<br /><br />Constance ~ I love that: "a new kind of normal," it is a perfect fit for times like this. And you're right, I've already readjusted: this time last week my normal was Bob living here; now my normal is having a son I can go visit in the city.<br /><br />There's nothing wrong with starting slow, just go about it in the way that best suits you, XErylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06008344023000459577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8463471462522424732.post-74921516944899774102011-07-19T19:09:14.004+01:002011-07-19T19:09:14.004+01:00Hello Eryl,
Glad you got a cool new table top out ...Hello Eryl,<br />Glad you got a cool new table top out of the deal! :-) <br />You may or may not know that I don't have children, so I don't have the right to have any insight about the loss of a child moving away. Alas, I do remember something my dad told me about change. I was graduating from 8th grade and going into high school. I told my dad I was afraid, that I didn't know if I was going to be able to do it. He said: "It's kind of funny, but once you start high school, and have been there a few weeks, you will feel a new kind of normal". I've tucked this one in my hat and learned that his words have rang true for all the big changes in my life.<br /><br />I can tell you have already arrived and that Stevie got a good looking plate of fish out of the process!!<br /><br />xox<br />Constance<br /><br />Thank you again, inviting me join Pinterest! I know, I know....I'm a slow starter. I need a photo and need to get a move~on~~rochambeauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02142325813293645555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8463471462522424732.post-89129415199421067122011-07-19T19:07:25.389+01:002011-07-19T19:07:25.389+01:00Imagine the opposite Eryl. Imagine he clung on at...Imagine the opposite Eryl. Imagine he clung on at home and got to rely on you to such an extent that you began to resent it. He is obviously an independent chap and also probably has no idea how you feel.The Weaver of Grasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13947971556343746883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8463471462522424732.post-25752790794951382422011-07-19T15:39:32.678+01:002011-07-19T15:39:32.678+01:00Pat ~ I know you're right, really I do. I mere...Pat ~ I know you're right, really I do. I merely need to adjust to not having him around to fix my computer or put up a shelf at the drop of a sock.<br /><br />I won't think about the possibility of sharing him with a wife just yet!<br /><br />Sarah ~ I think I do miss mine more each time he goes, too. I noticed this when he was away at uni in Portsmouth: each time he returned for the holidays it was harder to see him off again.<br /><br />Your bedroom sounds gorgeous.<br /><br />I think I pretty much agree with everything you say about writing. I'm constantly recommending your blog for good, solid advice. <br /><br />Scarlet ~ glad you enjoyed it. Farrow and Ball make the best colours, I'm really tempted to paint my desk 'Mouse's Back' now.Erylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06008344023000459577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8463471462522424732.post-82251776694884260762011-07-19T13:36:51.222+01:002011-07-19T13:36:51.222+01:00I enjoyed reading this post - with you taking the ...I enjoyed reading this post - with you taking the role of the lead character dealing with change. I am a sucker for narratives such as this. I am also a sucker for Farrow and Ball paint!<br />SXMs Scarlethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00449626572478125088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8463471462522424732.post-19990510598950854542011-07-19T13:24:50.163+01:002011-07-19T13:24:50.163+01:00Ah, sons leaving home...Mine went, came back for a...Ah, sons leaving home...Mine went, came back for a couple of months, then has gone again. Missing him much more the second time round than the first, perhaps because I hadn't anticipated the change happening so quickly. Bittersweet days.<br /><br />I've got a F&B Parma Grey floor, and Blackened in my bedroom - lovely restful sky-greys. <br /><br />Glad the post was useful and you agree with me about change.Sarah Duncanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12530089356370140344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8463471462522424732.post-19230934177781411582011-07-19T11:07:03.327+01:002011-07-19T11:07:03.327+01:00Believe me this is all good.
Only an hour's dr...Believe me this is all good.<br />Only an hour's drive away. You will now have the fun of being adults together. Meeting in town, having each other over for a meal. Lovely!<br />Make the most of it before he gets wed and you have to share him.Pathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01529798893653033970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8463471462522424732.post-69952486125040432452011-07-19T08:18:52.133+01:002011-07-19T08:18:52.133+01:00Titus ~ How is your brother, by the way? It must b...Titus ~ How is your brother, by the way? It must be really hard when older siblings start to leave. I was the oldest so the first to go in our house. I still remember how quiet my mother went when I told her I was moving, that Stevie and me had rented a cottage. I thought she was upset because we'd be 'living in sin' but I see differently now.<br /><br />Tunisian's not far off! Deli Zique mixed salads.<br /><br />This is a slightly blue-grey, they (Farrow and Ball) also do a lovely greenish one called French Grey, it's the colour of smoke.<br /><br />Savannah ~ thank you, lady XXXXXXX<br /><br />Inside Journeys ~ thank you. Bitter sweet describes it perfectly. <br /><br />I will now have to find a picture of a kitchen bitch. I am small and like to think I can be illuminating at times!Erylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06008344023000459577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8463471462522424732.post-57670170659334926442011-07-19T04:12:09.021+01:002011-07-19T04:12:09.021+01:00Incidentally, a 'kitchen bitch' in Jamaica...Incidentally, a 'kitchen bitch' in Jamaica is a small lamp.<br /><br />Love this story. Must be bittersweet for you to see Bob go though. <br /><br />Nice photos,<br />MarciaInsideJourneyshttp://insidejourneys.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8463471462522424732.post-68567595816488477692011-07-19T03:27:53.501+01:002011-07-19T03:27:53.501+01:00xoxoxoxo for you, sugar! ;~)xoxoxoxo for you, sugar! ;~)savannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04310843901371718758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8463471462522424732.post-78788637926350809002011-07-19T00:28:42.270+01:002011-07-19T00:28:42.270+01:00I like a well-told tale, and this was well told. I...I like a well-told tale, and this was well told. It is funny isn't it - my biggest was when the first of my brothers left home, I didn't think we would ever function as a family again. Not having read so much at that age, I think I nearly did chew a limb off. And it didn't matter that he was going to be fifteen minutes away.<br />I think my father always took it hard when each of us left home; my mother, however, couldn't quite conceal her delight.<br />So on the rational side, he's only an hour away, but these things are never rational. <br /><br />I think you had your main course and pudding on the same plate for lunch, and it was probably Tunisian.<br /><br />Finally, I was planning changing my hall and stairs colour to grey! You may have found the very one.Titushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16380213493011623153noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8463471462522424732.post-13855715508641898172011-07-18T23:44:43.580+01:002011-07-18T23:44:43.580+01:00Parsnip ~ you're right, this notion will have ...Parsnip ~ you're right, this notion will have been gaining momentum in Bob's mind for some time, months probably. <br /><br />Sometimes, when the sun shines on it the table looks quite blue, other times gray. It's just like having the sky in my room! <br /><br />Annie ~ to know one's children are thriving is definitely one of the best things in the world. I love to see Bob getting on and living his life, but I also love to have him here. It's one of those motherhood paradoxes, I guess.<br /><br />Jane and Lance ~ indeed, who knows where painting a table can lead. I'm holding out for Paris, at the very least. <br /><br />Nick ~ I wouldn't say I have lots of friends, but I do seem to have just the right amount.<br /><br />Jenny ~ I have found the opposite: change is getting easier, I used to hate it with a passion. <br /><br />Kim ~ I hate that, when a story ends too abruptly and I'm left reading the ads for other books in the hope that they'll morph into the real end.<br /><br />That said, I know I have a tendency to write stories like that myself. <br /><br />Starting a new story, that's what I hope I'm doing now. If only one didn't need money to go off on adventures I'd travel the world.<br /><br />It is a rather odd looking fish, isn't it? Unfortunately we didn't see it before it was plated.Erylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06008344023000459577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8463471462522424732.post-68025628345866207592011-07-18T22:31:26.263+01:002011-07-18T22:31:26.263+01:00Sudden unexpected narrative shifts - it's like...Sudden unexpected narrative shifts - it's like turning the page in a book, and suddenly finding you're at the end when you thought there were at least 3 chapters to go, but the back end of the book is full of acknowledgements, an index and adverts for other books.<br /><br />All very disconcerting until you can start a new story.<br /><br />Glad your limbs are not chewed off.<br /><br />Never seen a fish like Stevie's. Did it look much different when he chose it from the aquarium?Kim Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656677501116622953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8463471462522424732.post-40046671839301784532011-07-18T22:28:41.236+01:002011-07-18T22:28:41.236+01:00I think change becomes harder as we get older. I n...I think change becomes harder as we get older. I never thought it would. I'm glad you're settling into the new patterns. Nice colour for the table, by the way!Jenny Woolfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16881781466502273314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8463471462522424732.post-84383481226706915942011-07-18T21:10:41.235+01:002011-07-18T21:10:41.235+01:00Not having any children myself, this isn't a s...Not having any children myself, this isn't a situation I have experience of, but I can imagine seeing your son leave home after he's been a fixture for so many years must be quite a shock to the system. Good that you have plenty of friends to talk it through with and help you digest it.nickhttp://nickhereandnow.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8463471462522424732.post-89234104885359595532011-07-18T19:20:10.787+01:002011-07-18T19:20:10.787+01:00Hello Eryl:
Such a bittersweet note to this post w...Hello Eryl:<br />Such a bittersweet note to this post which we are sure reflects the conflicting emotions you must be feeling. But, this is surely a good outcome. <br /><br />Your son clearly feels that not only is he ready to strike out on his own but, clearly, has been given the confidence to do this by your support as parents. And, for you, new adventures lie ahead too. Today, painting a table top, tomorrow...who knows?!!Jane and Lance Hattatthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16831890261259302647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8463471462522424732.post-81433617650267520972011-07-18T18:36:27.537+01:002011-07-18T18:36:27.537+01:00Glad Bob is conquering his own world and has found...Glad Bob is conquering his own world and has found himself some new digs. It always is difficult to say goodbye, especially when the company is so welcome. All my kids are scattered about, but I am happy that they are thriving as I know you are too. Love your post! Very honest.Annie Boresonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05665524872940995351noreply@blogger.com