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Friday, 11 February 2011

My Best Friend's Wedding

On Sunday one of my two bestest, closest, soul-matiest friends will get married. On the other side of the world, in New Zealand, where he and his man moved a couple of years ago, from here in Scotland. I can't be there to watch the nuptials or celebrate with them, but in a way I don't really need to. I celebrate Mark finding John pretty much daily, whenever he pops into my consciousness. John has somehow completed Mark, made him more fully himself, just by accepting and loving the person he actually is. I'm happy for them everyday. That's not to say that drinking champers, on their lawn, in the sunshine and seeing again how happy they make each other wouldn't be delightful, it's just to say it's not necessary.

I thought this poem, by U A Fanthorpe, though not the most romantic of love poems in the conventional sense, felt right for the occasion. So I thought I'd read it for them. Tomorrow I'll make Devil's Food Cake by way of celebration.







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22 comments:

Sharon Longworth said...

Lovely, just lovely - the post, the poem and your wishes for your friends.

debra said...

"Love in the open hand; nothing but that." (Edna St Vincent Millay)
Enjoy the cake---the making and the eating, just as you have enjoyed planning.

Philip said...

Beautifully read. Really lovely. You should do more spoken stuff, you do it well.
Whilst I'm here - you should also use twitter more...

angryparsnip said...

awwwwwwww...
What a wonderfully special gift for your friends.
Your voice is lovely. envy le sigh

yum cake hope it comes out as nice as the lemon one !

cheers, parsnip

newjenny said...

Good poem.

It's always a treat to hear your lovely voice. (Your reality takes on a different status. Maybe before long you'll be able to serve us all cake through our computers.)

Congratulations to Mark and John. if you like them so, they must be alright.

63mago said...

... ja.

Mollie said...

I could listen to you all day.

That poem is just what love is like.

nick said...

It's lovely when two people find each other and complement each other so well. I hope they have many happy years together.

red-handed said...

Good show.

The Weaver of Grass said...

Congrats to the pair of them - may they have a long and happy life together. Love UA Fanthorpe's poems and I always think of this one as a love poem.

Golden West said...

How wonderful to hear your voice, Eryl!

Eryl said...

Sharon ~ proper friendship brings out the best in us, doesn't it?

Debra ~ thank you! Just very much enjoyed the making.

Philip ~ I look at Twitter most days but find it so full of interesting stuff all I do is read.

Parsnip ~ I have a love/hate relationship with my voice, worrying that I sound a bit 'empire' at times. The cake is currently making the house smell spectacularly homey.

Jenny ~ my reality needed a different status. It can't be long, surely, before we have star-trek machines that can magically produce any foodstuff we want. Then you can all ask your computers for a slice of my latest cake to see if it's really as good as I say!

Mago ~ indeed.

Mollie ~ it is isn't it? I fear the divorce rate is so high because most people don't recognise this.

Nick ~ I can't imagine them being apart now, they're make Plato sound right, with a twist.

Red ~ thanks.

Weaver ~ I'm only just getting to know Miss Fanthorpe and liking her more and more.

Golden ~ thank you!

Pat said...

I really relate to the poem. Tnank you:)

Kass said...

Sharing your happiness over John and Mark's union exponentially enhances everybody!

Lovely reading of Fanthorpe's poem.

Never thought of maintenance quite like that.

grrl + dog said...

Devils food cake was the first cake I ever learned to bake at age 11.

NZ is a skip over the ditch from here, so I can toast their happiness too.

Eryl said...

Pat ~ it's strikes me as a very important side of long-lived romantic love, so I can imagine that you do.

Kass ~ good poets do that, don't they: make us see things in a new way?

Denise ~ I wonder if your recipe is the same. This one wasn't quite like the one my mother used to make, though it wasn't far off. And I have another that sounds nothing like either!

Carole said...

The reading of the poem was beautiful. I wish you could pop over to the wedding but it is a bit far.

Eryl said...

Carole ~ thank you. It is just a little too far for a quick trip, one day though...

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rochambeau said...

Congratulations to Mark and John!!!
Makes me happy too!! It's a special thing to find your partner! I waited 37 years to find mine, so I know what it's like to not be with the right person and I know what it is to navigate solamente~

Happy evening Eryl!

xox

Constance

Meri said...

I hope they're safe and sound in NZ, with the devastating earthquake and all.

Eryl said...

Anon ~ good luck.

Constance ~ 37 years, gosh! I have never lived alone, but I have been very alone.

Meri ~ they are at a safe distance thank goodness, and a friend who lives in Christchurch is now staying with them.