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Sunday, 18 January 2009

Weekend Supplement

The boys are out today. I woke, late, to silence. I was able to wander starkers to the utility room where my favourite pyjama bottoms were airing without any fear of horrifying my son. Make coffee uninterrupted and without having to speak.



Take it to my room and shut the door without feeling any sense of guilt at shutting myself away, and just be.


I wouldn't chose to live alone all the time, but sometimes it is nice not to have to think about anyone else. Is that selfish?*


*As well as indulging my inner hermit today, I've also: washed a load of towels, cleaned the bathroom, washed last night's dishes, and I have a pot of stew (made last night) bubbling on the stove for their hungry arrival.

21 comments:

Conan Drumm said...

Saint Eryl, your beatification is long overdue!

savannah said...

you're good, sugar! very good! ;) xoxox

scarlet-blue said...

Not selfish at all... and where can I get a mug like yours?
Sx

Kim Ayres said...

With a plethora of large curtainless windows at your place, I'm sure the neighbours were in for a treat...

Eryl Shields said...

Conan ~ too fucking right!

Savannah ~ on paper, at least, XXX

Scarlet ~ isn't it gorgeous? It's also huge and holds at least a pint, perfect for morning coffee. I bought it from the potter at a craft fair, if you're anywhere near London or Cambridge try Primavera.

Kim ~ you've got me worried now!

debra said...

so glad you had that time for yourself! And the mug o'coffee, alone. Such sweetness! I am still in pajama bottoms and it is 2pm. This is my way of making myself slow down.

Jane Dearie said...

Great for you to relax and just beeeeeee. You really deserve it Eryl.
mugs full of love,
Jane xxx

HoodChick said...

I love alone time, no matter how I choose to spend it.

Eryl Shields said...

Debra ~ pyjama bottoms are the best way to slow yourself down.

Jane ~ thanks Jane! I don't think I deserve it anymore than most people, but it's nice to get it, XXX

Hoody ~ the great thing about it, I guess, is that you can choose.

Can Bass 1 said...

Solitude - and its enjoyment or endurance - rather depends on the quality of one's own company, I find. And after rather too many years alone, I've rather exhausted the novelty myself.

Eryl Shields said...

Can Bass 1 ~ that's the saddest thing I've ever heard. I'm coming right over to give you a little, virtual, company. Thanks for stopping by.

PI said...

I was only thinking today and wondering if I was being selfish by turning down a couple of coffee mornings with friends in favour of trying to finish all the bits and pieces I need to do prior to sending out to agents etc.
I think I do have a hermit tendency but at least there are two of us.

Mary Witzl said...

I LOVE spending time alone, but I'm aware that one of the reasons I do is because I have the choice not to. I think if you don't have the choice to spend your time with others, being alone isn't as much fun. Here's to always having the choice.

Just looking at that cafetiere full of coffee and that steaming frothy mug makes me feel wistful...

The World According To Me said...

That's not selfish, I think being alone is essential sometimes. And a huge mug of coffee.

Eryl Shields said...

Pat ~ it definitely can't be seen as selfish to turn down social engagements in order to get on with a job like that!

Mary ~ it's all about striking the right balance isn't it? I feel sure I wouldn't like it one bit if I had to be alone all the time, yet equally sure that I must have some time on my own. Preferably on a daily basis. The odd week wouldn't be a problem either.

Worldie ~ it is, it's the only way your mind can be allowed to wander freely.

Kim Ayres said...

Like your new avatar :)

Eryl Shields said...

I'm so glad :)

Dr Maroon said...

the top photo of you having a fag is better than the photoshopped one.

walking about the house naked is gay.

Eryl Shields said...

Gay and delightful, Doc, but only in private.

Kanani said...

Nah! Not selfish. Being alone can be completely restorative.

Eryl Shields said...

I agree, Kanani, but I do sometimes wonder if basking in that self-restoration is selfish given that there are so many who are denied it by circumstance or character.